“For me an empowered birth is one where I am the one who makes the decisions for me and my baby. Where I am in an environment of love, support, and respect for the power within my body to successfully birth my baby. Where I can be free to express anything I need to express; sound, movement, fear, love, ecstasy in a place that my expression will not lead to interference from the outside. I believe women have the ability to create an empowering birth experience regardless of if the birth outcome is natural, medicated, or surgical. When women are making the decisions for their bodies and their babies out of education, faith, belief and confidence in themselves and not out of fear or manipulation they will be empowered. I believe in the human body, in it’s power, and in birth’s ability to transform a person, woman, wife, and mother.”
Dr. Nancy, Your Birth Coach
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I wanted to share THIS ARTICLE
because I feel it is an important reminder to treat our closest loves ones with dignity and respect. The title is, “I wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly.”
It is important to remember to treat everyone with dignity (especially those people we love). I think we are almost all guilty of imposing our expectations on our loved ones at some point, I know I am. This article is a great mirror for us to see the effects of this on our family and how we need to step back and look at our own behavior.
One complaint I have about this article is that she said, “I’m not his mom.” We also should not be treating our children the way she described treating her husband. They deserve the same level of dignity and respect we would give to anyone else in society. If you wouldn’t speak to the bank manager that way, you shouldn’t speak to anyone that way.
The same goes for her comment about him not being her employee. No one deserves to be treated in a way that doesn’t honor who they are. I would never speak to my employees the way she spoke to her husband.
We need to remember that other people, including people we love, are their own people and we should not strive for them to be like us, or satisfy our expectations. If we love them, our desire for them should be to express their true essence, fully. Even if that means they are clumsy, forgetful, or disorganized.
The World Health Organization has released a statement: Prevention and elimination of disrespect and abuse during childbirth. I am sad that this even needs to be a topic of discussion and thrilled that this is finally being dealt with on a global scale.
WHO Statement: Prevention and elimination of disrespect and abuse during childbirth.
A comment on Today’s Parent article about a nurse in that took place after a recent human rights violation regarding breastfeeding stated:
“God so sick and tired of these women who constantly complain….and I am sorry you wanna whip out your breast to feed your child….do not do it in front of me while I am eating…there is such thing as a pump and if you know your going out pump some milk, you can breast feed in the privacy of your own home.” from MOMOF1
Why on Earth would someone pump to leave the house?
Here is some context about the incident. A woman who was travelling in Ontario with her baby stopped at Tim Horton’s and breastfed her baby. She was asked to cover up by the supervisor and the manager. The next day a nurse-in took place to raise awareness that breastfeeding is a protected right via the Charter of Rights and Freedoms and the Ontario Human Rights Code. No woman can be asked to move or cover up while nursing.
It seems to me that comments, like the one by MOMOF1, clearly show how much people do not understand breastfeeding and what it would take for a mom to pump to leave the house.
One of the benefits of breastfeeding is that it is available in the right quantity and temperature at all times and places and does not require the expense of any paraphernalia or time to prepare.
For a mom to pump milk to go out Continue reading
I am appalled at this article on the Huffington Post entitled, “Recalibrating Our Expectations of Childbirth.”
You don’t really need to go and read it, I quote the appalling parts below, but if you are interested here is the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cara-paiuk/recalibrating-our-expecta_b_5372955.html
There are some good points in this article about preparing for birth and how to deal with unexpected outcomes that I wholeheartedly agree with. My opinion is that not enough emphasis is placed on really being ready for the intensity of birth physically and emotionally. Not enough women prepare for unexpected outcomes and more would benefit from independent (non-hospital based) childbirth education and mentoring.
Beyond that, this article is highly offensive on so many levels, even for someone like me, who had three ‘perfect’ births that went according to ‘plan’.
Here is where the article starts to go wrong: Continue reading
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There was a great article in the Ottawa Citizen about why parents choose not to vaccinate. Here is my response to this article:
I agree that the media and the medical community are uninformed of the reason why parents choose to abstain from vaccines, delay, or selectively vaccinate. Each time an article blames non-vaccinating on celebrities or autism I know the author/reporter is clearly uninformed on the real issues.
I have three main issues with vaccines, which are also the concerns of most of the non-vaccinating parents I know.
#1 Lack of informed choice.
Most parents are not given accurate information with which to make an informed choice. All pro-vaccine material makes the assumption that the only choice is to say yes to vaccines. Vaccine marketing is often manipulative (especially that for HPV) and parents are often coerced and bullied into their decision. Parents are presented with fear-based information about the risks of the “vaccine-preventable” infections and overstatements of the benefits of vaccines, claiming guaranteed effectiveness. That is not nearly enough information to be making an informed choice. No parent who has been given this limited amount of information, has legally given informed consent. Continue reading